Oh, Dear...

I am a regular at a hooters.

This bartender girl and i get along well. She is a single mom in her mid 20's. I am in my mid 30's and recently divorced but may be getting back with my ex.

we talk a lot.

Even when I paid my bill and tipped her, she likes me to stay later and just sit and talk with her.

Now, I have $ and a great job and she knows that. But she likes to talk about my family and wants to know more about me.

She has been trampled on by men in the past who have dumper her. Including the father of her child-who left her -they never married.

I asked her out- she said yes.

But says she is very busy working 5 nights a week plus having her small child to take care of- so she asked me for my # which i gave to her. She wants to tell me when she is available.

a lot of times she does not care how much i order , she likes me to just sit and talk.

One night, I had 3 large beers.

Then she said" you should not drink and drive" Let me give you some water and you can just sit and talk with me" this happens even if I have 1 beer.

Is she interested or just flirting with me? This has been going on for several weeks if not a couple months

Personally i like her as a person(her looks aside). she talks a lot about her child. How she struggles to make enough to put food on the table and to just live in a small apt.

I live in a 3000 sq ft house which i bought and dhe know this.

is she still flirting or she genuinely interested?

Oh, she's flirting all right...

Look, as I do not know the woman in question, it is absolutely impossible for me to truly know what motive she has for her flirtatious behavior. That being said, however, don't you think that if she was genuinely interested in you romantically she would make the time to see you outside of work? The old, "Sure, I'll go out with you, but, oh, I am just so busy! Give me your number and I'll call you..." is the oldest trick in the book, and one that every Hooters Girl learns very quickly. That's not to say that your bartender is completely disinterested in you, however, the odds are not in your favor.

Men, when a woman is working in a position where your attraction and interest in her is directly proportional to her income, understand that flirting is simply part of her job. When a Hooters Girl, a cocktail waitress, a club dancer, an exotic dancer, or an escort behaves as though she is interested in you, more often than not it is because she knows that that feigned interest will result in a higher tip and return business. Don't take it to heart, especially when she refuses to give you her contact information or nail down a time to meet up outside of her workplace.